Three Myths of Children's Grief

Presented in a seminar for the Grief Resource Foundation, 1978
     * Myth 1.  Children Don't Grieve

        - Children grieve all losses in spurts, several times a day
        - They re-grieve throughout all developmental stages
        - Children don't know they're grieving or understand their feelings

     * Myth 2.  Children Experience Few Losses

        - Children experiences losses on a daily basis:

          .. At School: Sports, Grades, Competitions, Self Esteem, Relationships
          .. At Home  : Control, understanding, dysfunctional family losses
                        ( 1 of 7 loses a parent to death before age 10 )

     * Myth 3.  Childhood is the Happiest Time of One's Life

        - A child will go through 6 developmental stages between birth and age 21
        - Each stage is marked by a period of continuous change in cognition,
          feelings, and physical development
        - Almost every area of life through each developmental stage is totally
          controlled by circumstances outside of the influence of the child


TLC Group grants anyone the right to use this information without compensation so long as the copy is not used for profit or as training materials in a profit making activity such as workshops, lectures, and seminars, and so long as this paragraph is retained in its entirety.


Return to Main Page